In conversations around LGBTQ+ identities, it’s common to see the terms lesbian and bisexual used interchangeably — or even misunderstood entirely. While both identities fall under the broader queer umbrella, they are distinct and deserve to be respected as such.
Getting it right isn’t just about labels — it’s about recognition, visibility, and inclusion. When we blur or erase the differences, we risk silencing the experiences of real people.
What’s the Difference?
Let’s start with basic definitions:
- Lesbian: A woman (or someone who identifies with womanhood) who is romantically and/or sexually attracted exclusively to other women.
- Bisexual: A person who is romantically and/or sexually attracted to more than one gender — typically their own and others (not limited to only men and women).
Both identities are valid, but they reflect different experiences, different attractions, and sometimes even different struggles.
Why It Matters
Misunderstanding these identities may seem harmless, but it has real consequences:
1. Erasure Hurts
When bisexual women are constantly labeled as lesbians (or vice versa), their personal experiences are invalidated. This contributes to a sense of invisibility and isolation — even within queer communities.
2. It Reinforces Harmful Stereotypes
Confusing the two identities feeds into toxic narratives — like the idea that bisexuality isn’t “real,” or that lesbians just “haven’t found the right man.” These stereotypes are not only offensive but also deeply damaging to mental health.
3. It Undermines Community Support
Clear understanding helps build better, more supportive communities. When we take time to understand and respect each identity, we create safer spaces for everyone to express themselves authentically.
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